Cutting ties between children and parents — heartbreaking but sometimes necessary

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I have always been a student of social psychology. And living in the age of information, it is easy for anyone to learn about anything. But all the research in the world pales in comparison to watching and listening to live people in real-time.

Hosting large social media platforms has taught me the most.

One thing is certain: in many regards, people are collectively consistent. When you get thousands of comments a day, it is easy to see patterns and notice the popular auto-responses that are often given by viewers.

Today, we will take a look at an idea that…


The Typewriter Habit of straight quotes and why curly quotes are important — Typography 101

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Most readers never notice, at least not consciously. The subconscious mind, however, is a powerful thing.

Pull up any article from the Washington Post or the New York Times. Grab any book from your bookshelf.

You will never find a straight quote:

' or "

You will always find curly quotes.

‘ or “

Why?

The vertical quotes that you find on your keyboard were never created for publishing. They were created as a shortcut for typewriters and are also referred to as ‘primes’. They are used in numerical measurements to indicate inches and feet.

5'7 or 4" would be…


America’s diverse multicultural society

Segregation in a modern society fueled by anti-racism — I will not silence myself because of my skin color

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Writing this title, ‘A Colorless White World’, I get a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. With a title like this, I may generate immediate disgust by some readers. A colorless world doesn’t sound good. And as a white person, I cannot talk about anything societal in my world that is ‘not good’ because of my ‘white privilege’.

Implying that I suffer from anything — especially related to race — or that anything is being forced upon me will surely be followed up by accusations of my white privilege, entitlement and ingratitude.

Who am I, a white woman…


Construction and destruction — constructively dealing with people bent on destruction

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Have you ever met that person who seems to swing around like a wrecking ball?

The ones going around laying their claws into anything and everything in hopes of mass destruction?

I know you have met that person. You may even be them.

Regardless of whether you are a constructive or destructive person — because the choice is yours — it is valuable to be aware that we are all constructing and destructing all the time.

No-one creates one hundred percent of the time, and there is always a time and place for destruction.

Everything built must, someday, be torn…


Uncertain Death and Impending Doom

A glance into a day in the life of those who have survived

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Have you ever thought you were going to die?

And I don’t mean the everyday fear of death that all humans experience.

I mean, have you ever faced sudden possible death? Have you ever thought, at any moment, that you may die before the next? Has dying ever been that close to you? Has it ever been that real?

Maybe there was a fire and you barely got out in time. Or maybe, you got T-boned at an intersection and as that car slammed into you in slow motion, your life flashed before your eyes. Some people have drowned and…


If black people can’t be racist

I lived for years as a white girl in a black community and I participated in discrimination against white people

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I grew up in a Midwest town that had a good mix of white and black people. And, unlike some areas in America, it was common to see white and black people together.

No one looked twice when they saw a couple mixed with dark and light hues. It was normal for black and white people to co-exist. There were just as many white people in the displaced, impoverished, and crime-ridden areas as there were black people. There were pockets of the community, though, that held mostly black people. …


Whether you are building a business or an audience, don’t wait to brand

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Whether you are building a business or an audience, the importance of strategic branding is paramount. And it is not something that can wait until later, unless you want to throw away opportunities for success.

I get it, it’s overwhelming. There are so many things to consider and, unless you can hire multiple people, those things are all on you. Branding, content curation, technical aspects, social media strategy — it is a lot.

But how do you eat an elephant? Well, I wouldn’t — but if I was, I would have to eat it one bite at a time. When…


But trying to force it to can destroy you

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He was killing himself, day by day, Xanax by Xanax, and bottle by bottle.

It wasn’t the kind of suicide you see in the movies, but it was suicide nonetheless. It was just a slower, more torturous and painful suicide — one he likely believed he deserved.

He knew it was only a matter of time. Death wasn’t scary though. He welcomed it.

Anything would be better than the darkness of his world, the darkness of society, the hopelessness, and the defeat. …


Magnificent minds turned into maniacs by an exclusive society — the questions Ted left behind

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The story of Ted Kaczynski is one of the most intriguing of my time. Most know him as the Unabomber, but if Ted had it his way, you would remember him as the Freedom Club.

From Ted’s infamous cabin — that he lived in alone for 17 years — to the insecurities that led to his demise, despite his genius, his entire story is bizarre and intriguing.

There is much to be learned from Ted, about the human condition, society as a whole, and the power and fragility of the human psyche. Upon thoughtfully considering the curious aspects of his…


You just might believe it

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Our words are powerful beyond measure.

Many of our parents taught us to be careful with our words.

Think before you speak because once you say something, you cannot unsay it.

We are taught how to be polite and respectful to others. But, in Western Culture, we have dropped the ball somewhere along the ancestral line.

Somewhere, someway, someone forgot the importance of how we speak to ourselves.

That forgetfulness must have become a pattern that we are still paying the price for today because self-deprecation has become a well-loved sport in Western Society — much to our own destruction.

Holly Kellums

Author * Social Media Influencer * Recovery Coach * Human Potential Activist

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