A culture of recovery shame

The discovery of the twelfth step laid the foundation of AA and the twelve steps— sponsorship

It is not lost on me why recovery rates are so low and so many addicts and alcoholics are dying.

As I have written in A Culture of Recovery Shame, one of the leading causes of this failure is the perversion of a concept that we call sponsorship.

Sponsorship, which Bill found to be the last and most vital ingredient to long-term sobriety, has been perverted and its benefits are being withheld from the newcomer — until they meet a certain list of fabricated requirements placed upon them by many senior members, also known as old-timers.

If you are a…


From fire breathing dragon to good ole friend

Discarding the notion of writer’s block so you can work on your writer’s blocks

There is something to be said about how we have labeled this thing we call writer’s block.

When we discuss it, we say, “I have writer’s block,” or “They have writer’s block.”

As all writers know, there are always implications in how we arrange any combination of words.

Yes, the world hears those implications. That matters — a lot. But, most importantly, we hear them. And we usually believe whatever we repeat. What is a belief, anyway, besides a thought we keep thinking?

Think about the difference between these two very similar yet completely different statements.

“I have writer’s block.”


You are a genius

Explaining your purpose simply means you understand it well enough

The question of the ages is simple yet complex. It is the question that we have been asking ourselves since the beginning of time.

What is my purpose?

Anyone who establishes a presence as a public figure must define purpose.

Writers, creators and influencers cannot deny the question — at least, not if they wish to find branding success. However, all humans could benefit from answering it — even if just for themselves.

Why am I here?

Yes, it sounds daunting. And due to the weaponized humility that permeates Western Culture, it feels weird for most people to talk about…


Construction and destruction — constructively dealing with people bent on destruction

Have you ever met that person who seems to swing around like a wrecking ball?

The ones going around laying their claws into anything and everything in hopes of mass destruction?

I know you have met that person. You may even be them.

Regardless of whether you are a constructive or destructive person — because the choice is yours — it is valuable to be aware that we are all constructing and destructing all the time.

No-one creates one hundred percent of the time, and there is always a time and place for destruction.

Everything built must, someday, be torn…


Uncertain Death and Impending Doom

A glance into a day in the life of those who have survived

Have you ever thought you were going to die?

And I don’t mean the everyday fear of death that all humans experience.

I mean, have you ever faced sudden possible death? Have you ever thought, at any moment, that you may die before the next? Has dying ever been that close to you? Has it ever been that real?

Maybe there was a fire and you barely got out in time. Or maybe, you got T-boned at an intersection and as that car slammed into you in slow motion, your life flashed before your eyes. Some people have drowned and…


An unlimited supply of cash

Stop treating money as something you have to find and start treating it as something you already have — because you do

Stop treating money as something you have to find and start treating it as something you already have — because you do.

Have you ever noticed that you cannot find things when you are actively looking for them? In these times, it seems as though the more we need to find something, the more elusive it becomes.

You risk running late for an all-important meeting that you have been looking forward to for months. You had all your ducks in a row, but somehow, your keys have magically disappeared. …


Lemonading life’s sourest lemons

I went from a state recovery coach to a worldwide social media influencer with the drop of a devastating truth

It was a day like any other.

I was working with one of my recovery houses as a state coordinator for the Illinois Department of Human Services, aka IDHS. I know this sounds fancy and boring, but we didn’t work in government offices. We worked in the field with the clients. Our work was done in the streets, in the houses and in the community.

We opened and built recovery homes based on the Oxford House Model and chartered them through Oxford House inc. The drug and substance abuse division of IDHS, aka DASA, funded our contracts.

So here I…


Do you give too much?

Your relationship with taking is just as important as your relationship with giving

Receivership is an art — an art that thrives on reciprocity. Its coin has two sides, give and take.

Since most people want to be successful, humans have spent an unprecedented amount of time and energy studying and documenting the traits of successful people.

We study successful people so we can learn how to receive what they have received. What are the greats besides people who have received the most in return for their work? The most money, the most attention, the most respect and the most power.

There are countless books written about successful people and their relationship with…


Some create while others destroy

Some people are destructive by nature — real life applications on utilizing their destruction by looking at it constructively

After writing the story, Destructive by Nature — Some People Build While Others Destroy, I received practical application requests.

Although people loved the sentiment, they wanted to know how to apply it to their lives.

You don’t have to allow destructive people to destroy things in your life. You don’t even have to let them ruin your day. You can see it for what it is and build on it, or you can let it chip away at your resolve.

The choice is yours. Just like what comes out of others is what is inside them, when you get squeezed…


Celebrating Easter as our world is born again

Easter 2021 is the Easter of the ages because we are not only celebrating the rebirth we celebrate yearly, but we are celebrating the rebirth of our planet, following a year of death, chaos and destruction.

There is nothing we can do about our rebirth. Our old world has passed away, whether we like it or not.

A new world means a new us.

Beliefs vary widely regarding the birth of our Easter traditions. But these beliefs all have something in common.

Whether the word Easter started with Eostre — the goddess of fertility, or the word alba that became…

Holly Kellums

Author * Social Media Influencer * Recovery Coach * Human Potential Activist

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